Paint or Stain??? That is THE question

Here's our huge issue....our trim (baseboard, window and door) on the main floor. What should we do- stained or painted trim? (and if stained which wood species?)

A little background for you:

1) I'm horrible at making decisions. Just ask my husband. Some of my decisions have turned out to be blunders. Some huge mistakes I've made we've been able to correct (at great cost)...like the kitchen island. Others- like our too small windows and yellow kitchen cabinets- will take lots of time and MONEY to change (and might never happen). Given my history of bad decisions I've been paralyzed making any more decisions (except wall color- I know I can change that easily!).

2) We took the trim off over a year ago so that we could more easily paint the walls. We decided that since we never liked the standard builder trim that we would replace it with something else. We know we want to have an extra wide baseboard. We haven't finalized the trim style around the windows and doors but I think we'll go for something simple.

3) I hate orange and yellow wood. We have unstained maple cabinets in the kitchen. They looked beautiful when they were first installed but now they look yellow. I honestly don't like it. I'd like to say that I'm trying very hard to not be whiny- just wanted to qualify my bad decision making statement I made earlier. I also don't like the standard builder trim that is in the rest of the house- it's very orange and skinny.

Example of our doors and trim that's throughout the rest of the house (this is in my bedroom). It's very orange:

4) I doubt we'll live in this house for the rest of our lives...meaning we need to take resale value into consideration. Most of the houses in this area have the stained trim. I'm not sure if doing part of the house painted trim and leaving the other part stained will affect the resale value (or whatever you call that).

5) We're not woodworkers. We've tried tackling other woodworking projects. If we've been successful it was due to Mark's Dad (he's an awesome woodworker) helping us. We're still -every-so-slowly-since-it's-such-a-huge-pain-in-the-rear- working on our kitchen island. We hate using stain and we hate varnish. One project we've been successful at: our wood treads going to the second floor.

6) I would love to add architectural interest to the interior. I'm sure that could be accomplished by adding crown/ceiling moulding and/or wainscoting to the walls but like I said we're not woodworkers. I really don't like how it's one open room without any physical deliniation between the spaces. In the original house plans there were stub walls but I made the very poor decision of removing them. Stupid me.

7) I prefer the look of painted trim. In rare cases I've seen homes look stunningly gorgeous with wood trim too. I think my husband prefers stained trim (but I think he's willing to compromise).

8) Our doors are solid wood. Most have been varnished (but not all). I feel kind of weird about painting the doors but perhaps that's the right thing to do. How would it look if they were painted on one side but left varnished on the other side? (that is if the suggestion is to paint them).

Varnished doors with red door:

Unvarnished door:

9) The windows- well...I just don't know; I'm at a complete loss. Not all the window have been varnished. We hate varnish (the fumes put us in an extremely foul mood..seriously!). However, if we left them varnished what would it look like to have painted trim? Or would it be better to paint the windows to match the trim? Would white trim make the windows look bigger? Here's one HUGE mistake we made while building this house- we didn't realize how small the windows actually were. I had it in my head that our windows were quite a bit larger but it didn't translate to that in reality. I wish that the two windows on the wall with the woodstove were both double windows. There's not a lot of light coming in as it is. I think if we stayed here eventually we would put in larger windows but that's not something we can even consider right now.

10) The floor in the living room is natural/unstained maple. There is cream/pink-ish/beige mottled tile in the foyer and kitchen areas.

11) For reference...the walls in the living room area are painted SW Svelte Sage and the rest of the main floor is painted SW Latte. I like the wall colors (although I admit that the Svelte Sage has an unnatural yellow-ish appearance when the ceiling lights are turned on)

12) I've mentioned that the kitchen cabinets are unstained natural maple. The kitchen island is maple that we've stained a deep mahogany. I love the mahogany color! I love how the island is slowly coming together. If we were to stay in this house I think I would paint the rest of the kitchen cabinets a creamy white color (or something else?), hire someone to put crown moulding on top and replace the strange green laminate countertop with something else that would complement the island countertop (which is Zodiaq Cygnus Pearl). That would be a monstrous job and something we wouldn't consider doing for a few or even several years. (I should I also mention that most of the houses here don't have painted cabinets so I'm not sure about this one).

Island BEFORE (also our dining furniture has changed):Island almost-AFTER. Check out those yellow maple cabinets!Close-up of window in kitchen with weird green laminate countertop:

13) Perhaps I should mention that there's a mish-mash of various wood species and stains already in this house. Mostly unstained maple but our solid doors are hemlock (I think) and the window casings and frames are something else. The oak treads (from main floor to 2nd floor) are stained a dark color (not really mahogany though). We have a natural cherry dining set that is getting darker as we speak (love cherry!). We also have other furniture in dark brown stains.

14) I'm not opposed to hiring someone to help with the decision making process. However I'm weary of doing that...how do I know that person will help decisions based on my situation? I don't want someone to give me an answer based solely on my opinions (especially since we'll need to consider resale value) or based on their preferences. Also, I'm a little nervous about how much such a service would cost. I mean....it could certainly be worth it if it meant me not tearing out any more of my hair but what if turns into one gigantic mistake? I've already made too many of mistakes. Changing wall color- that's easy. Changing trim- not so easy.

Whew!

Are you still with me?

I know I've said a lot. I just wanted to lay out all the cards on the table.

Photo looking at living room (notice the very small windows):Front door (I love how the crisp white door looks against the sage green walls):
Also in foyer; doors leading to tiny library/computer room; stair case:

Did I miss anything?

Now...given everything I've mentioned what would you do? And why? I'm begging- pleading- for help. We've been without trim for over a year.